After planning and deciding how to bring up the topic of a problem with drugs and alcohol, there is a lot of hope that a loved one will say yes to getting help. In the face of a prison system, a judicial ruling, or other consequences, there is hope that a loved one will say yes. Unfortunately, they don’t always say yes. Here are ways to navigate the disappointment and continue to be proactive.
Host An Intervention
Interventions are structured events for confronting a loved one with an addiction which is rapidly getting out of control. Not all interventions follow the classic style including letters and ultimatums. At Hired Power, our interventionists work with you and your family to develop the best possible plan for encouraging your loved one to go to treatment and get the help they need.
Hire A Personal Recovery Assistant
The family should focus on their lives instead of getting their loved one to treatment. Recovery is their responsibility and they have to learn to take it on for themselves. You need to focus on your own recovery in the process. Hired Power provides Certified Professional Recovery Assistants to help your loved one focus on their recovery and let you go back to your job: loving them.
Get To An Al-Anon Meeting
Al-Anon was designed for the spouses and family members of addicts and alcoholics. When the alcoholic or addict gets to recover, there is a sudden emptiness for family members. Now, their loved one gets better. What about them? At this free and open 12 step meeting, you can meet other family members of addicts and alcoholics who are learning to live with recovery. When your loved one is in treatment, out of treatment, refusing treatment, people at Al-Anon meetings can relate to your struggles and guide you in being the most supportive family member you can be, while maintaining healthy boundaries.
Detach With Love
At the end, there is only so much you can do. You should never “give up” on your loved one. However, making yourself sick, putting the family through more horror, and pushing your loved one away will not solve any problem. You have to learn to support your loved one in a healthy way without enabling their behaviors. It isn’t your fault they’re continuing to drink and use without asking for help to go to treatment. Unfortunately, they are independent people, being controlled by a manipulative and harmful disease. Support yourself and your family like normal and continue to love your loved one. When they are ready, they will say yes to treatment and changing their lives. The options is always available. Keep it open to them.
Hired Power has a team of compassionate recovery professionals who live recovery in their personal lives. Our goal is to empower families to bring recovery home. Offering recovery services from start to finish, Hired Power is here to support you every step of the way. For more information, call us today at 1-800-910-9299.
